I have remained silent for quite a long time since the drama and I think it's time to speak my piece.
No doubt that I do judge (who don't), but this affair is just between you & her. She could be having problems & you just happen to be the knight in shining amour (perhaps in the wrong kind of situation; not the social norm); but what I am pissed off is the lies that went through all it.
The one thing I hate is betrayal of trust from my family & friends. I love my friends and want the best for them. However, they choose to lie about it. To think the parties involved are potential-family-member & friend.
By "accusing" me of being a 3rd party in my current relationship is akin to pointing fingers at your brother's integrity. I wonder if this is his own way of justifying his actions? It could be, in his sense, but not mine.
Please, get this straight into your brain. Whatever happens with you & her is your business. I just realised today that there were quite a couple of posts targeted at me (intentionally/unintentionally). To the person who speak of family, this is what I have to say:
Don't speak loosely of family. When they were there to give you advice, you refused to take it. Now that the problem has been created, don't use the word "family" to attempt to solve it. All the while, this problem has been between me and her. I do not appreciate other people being involved.
To her: I do appreciate you taking the 1st step previously to explain things. I don't understand what you've been going through, but I do know that you betrayed my trust. That hurts a lot to me. Trust is something that I value a lot and you had to break it. I am not saying that it's your fault (given your situation) but what done cannot be undone. I would want to trust you again, someday, somehow.